Attraction Fixation

[Note: this post was originally posted to Pillowfort on Jan 7, 2020.]

For my own future reference, since it comes up a fair bit: This is a post about a formulaic "if this, then that" approach to attraction as a sole determiner of orientation, as a type of identity essentialism. I'm open to suggestions on what else to call this -- attraction-centrism? attraction essentialism? -- but "attraction fixation" is the placeholder I'm going with for now.

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(Dis)engagement: Questions to Ask Yourself

[Note: this post was originally made to Pillowfort on July 18, 2018.]

A continuation of this post.

Alright, say you come across somebody saying something Wrong. That's the impetus.

If you're evaluating whether to engage, consider some questions such as these: ( Read more... )

Thoughts on the Fanexus Application Form

[Note: this post was originally made to Pillowfort on Nov 30, 2020.]

Over on a certain viewlocked post about this month's Fanexus drama, a user discussed being put off by their application form, and I remarked that I could probably write a whole post on that alone. ( Read more... )