On the subject of does "DNI if you don't think aces are queer" include me? On Tumblr "aces aren't queer" is more code for "aces are straight" and an easy way to figure out who the Anti-Ace Brigade is (because that's their main marching chant) then "I am neither queer nor straight" so I'd argue that you'd be fine, but the person who put that in their DNI might disagree.